1. Anonymous said: what do you think should be included/excluded in romance stories? i want to go a different route than usual and knowing some helpful ideas might just guide me to someplace new

    aliceinpunderland:

    elumish:

    aliceinpunderland:

    elumish:

    Romance novels are like any other type of novel where virtually everything is fair game. That being said, there are some things I would like to see more or less of in romance stories:

    More:

    • The woman being stronger (emotionally, physically, magically, etc.) than the man (in heteroromantic stories)
    • Asexual/gray-a/demisexual characters
    • Gray-romantic/demiromantic characters (also aromantic characters, but those are harder in romance novels)
    • Realistic consequences for unequal relationships (teacher-student, employer-employee, nobility-non-nobility, etc.)

    Less:

    • Romanticizing of abusive relationships and/or dubious or non-existent consent

    For going in a new direction, my biggest suggestion would be to read a bunch of romance novels and see what you want from a romance novel. Write about that. And if there are similarities, that’s totally okay. Here is a list of random romance possible plot points/premises for you to think about:

    • Have to rely on each other for survival
    • One person knows about the other/unequal knowledge
    • Secrets that affect each other
    • Ex(es) that become important
    • One-night stand that leads to more
    • Accidental pregnancy
    • Pregnancy scare
    • Reunited old friends
    • Arranged relationship/marriage
    • Slave/master relationship
    • Bodyguard/protectee relationship
    • Enemies-turned-friends
    • Met at a BDSM/kink club
    • Met at a bar
    • Exes who rekindle the relationship
    • Kidnapping
    • Soul-mates

    Also, think about your romantic ideals/fantasies. Those can give some pretty good starting points for writing romance (though make sure you don’t then turn the story into an author-insertion-fantasy, because those are usually not very good).

    ahaha the LAST thing romance novels need more of are slave/master relationships, especially considering that is a literally non-existent relation type because it is inherently rape. PLEASE DO NOT WRITE MORE ROMANCE NOVELS ABOUT THIS IT IS AWFUL AND DISGUSTING AND LITERALLY THE SINGLE MOST ABUSIVE “RELATIONSHIP” SET-UP IMAGINABLE

    I want to clarify two things with this, because aliceinpunderland made a good point. The slave/master relationship is not a healthy relationship. Neither is the kidnapping one (unless both people are kidnap victims simultaneously, and then it probably still isn’t healthy). The unequal knowledge one isn’t really either. That doesn’t mean that they are not relationships, or that you can’t write about them. As odd as this may sound, you can write “romance” novels or erotica or whatever other type of novel you want to about them. You just need to be careful to not suggest that it is a healthy relationship.

    Also, to aliceinpunderland (and many other people in the world), I don’t think you understand that romance novels can exist without sex. If there is no sex (or sexual activity) it is not rape. Yes, it is a really terrible and unhealthy relationship. Abuse doesn’t mean that it is rape. Just as a clarification.

    I actually do, and I’ve written about it before, and I was going to be very polite about this but then you were super super condescending and so now I’m not.

    You are being deliberately obtuse if you’re going to sit here and say you thought I was just /forgetting that there doesn’t have to be sex/. You are being deliberately obtuse if you are going to sit here and say you added slave/master to the list expecting people to know that NO NO BUT NO SEX IN THAT ONE THAT WOULD BE RAPE. I can’t even think of a /word/ for what you are being if you’re going to sit here and compare /”unequal knowledge”/ to /slavery/. Kidnapping is not slavery unless you enslave the person you kidnapped, are you /absolutely shitting me/ these are /morally bankrupt comparisons/ are you quite sure /you/ understand what /slavery is/?

    SLAVERY IS NOT AN “UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP”.

    WHITE PEOPLE DID NOT HAVE AN “UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP” WITH BLACK PEOPLE

    SLAVERY

    IS

    SLAVERY

    Please deposit your complaints about my tone in the trash right next to virtually everything you just said to me.

    I apologize if I offended you. My comment about rape was in regards to the phrase “inherently rape” and I realize now that my explanation was unclear. I will entirely agree that in most cases romantic relationships involve sex, and that in cases of master/slave relationships the sex would 100% be rape. I will not say that every action involved in a master/slave relationship is rape, because that is not the definition of rape. 

    My comparison between unequal knowledge, kidnapping, and slavery came because I don’t know of a stronger word than “unhealthy” that maintains the same connotation in this context. I am also not using the word “unhealthy” to describe slavery (or kidnapping, etc.) but to describe an additional romantic and/or sexual relationship resulting from the existing slavery, etc. 

    I realize now that I was unclear and possibly offensive, and that was not at all my intention. I will never advocate for the romantcization of slavery or condone slavery in any form.

  2. Anonymous said: what do you think should be included/excluded in romance stories? i want to go a different route than usual and knowing some helpful ideas might just guide me to someplace new

    aliceinpunderland:

    elumish:

    Romance novels are like any other type of novel where virtually everything is fair game. That being said, there are some things I would like to see more or less of in romance stories:

    More:

    • The woman being stronger (emotionally, physically, magically, etc.) than the man (in heteroromantic stories)
    • Asexual/gray-a/demisexual characters
    • Gray-romantic/demiromantic characters (also aromantic characters, but those are harder in romance novels)
    • Realistic consequences for unequal relationships (teacher-student, employer-employee, nobility-non-nobility, etc.)

    Less:

    • Romanticizing of abusive relationships and/or dubious or non-existent consent

    For going in a new direction, my biggest suggestion would be to read a bunch of romance novels and see what you want from a romance novel. Write about that. And if there are similarities, that’s totally okay. Here is a list of random romance possible plot points/premises for you to think about:

    • Have to rely on each other for survival
    • One person knows about the other/unequal knowledge
    • Secrets that affect each other
    • Ex(es) that become important
    • One-night stand that leads to more
    • Accidental pregnancy
    • Pregnancy scare
    • Reunited old friends
    • Arranged relationship/marriage
    • Slave/master relationship
    • Bodyguard/protectee relationship
    • Enemies-turned-friends
    • Met at a BDSM/kink club
    • Met at a bar
    • Exes who rekindle the relationship
    • Kidnapping
    • Soul-mates

    Also, think about your romantic ideals/fantasies. Those can give some pretty good starting points for writing romance (though make sure you don’t then turn the story into an author-insertion-fantasy, because those are usually not very good).

    ahaha the LAST thing romance novels need more of are slave/master relationships, especially considering that is a literally non-existent relation type because it is inherently rape. PLEASE DO NOT WRITE MORE ROMANCE NOVELS ABOUT THIS IT IS AWFUL AND DISGUSTING AND LITERALLY THE SINGLE MOST ABUSIVE “RELATIONSHIP” SET-UP IMAGINABLE

    I want to clarify two things with this, because aliceinpunderland made a good point. The slave/master relationship is not a healthy relationship. Neither is the kidnapping one (unless both people are kidnap victims simultaneously, and then it probably still isn’t healthy). The unequal knowledge one isn’t really either. That doesn’t mean that they are not relationships, or that you can’t write about them. As odd as this may sound, you can write “romance” novels or erotica or whatever other type of novel you want to about them. You just need to be careful to not suggest that it is a healthy relationship.

    Also, to aliceinpunderland (and many other people in the world), I don’t think you understand that romance novels can exist without sex. If there is no sex (or sexual activity) it is not rape. Yes, it is a really terrible and unhealthy relationship. Abuse doesn’t mean that it is rape. Just as a clarification.

  3. 45 Things I Want to See Less of in Stories (Worldbuilding Edition) →

    elumish:

    1. Dramatic religious shifts in <50 years
    2. Arbitrary returns to Roman/Greek systems
    3. Worlds with one continent
    4. Arbitrary homophobia
    5. Heterogeneous technologically-limited rural areas
    6. Worlds with one religion/method of worship
    7. Skin color as the only means of differentiation

    Fierceawakening is entirely correct in their argument against my point 31. What I was attempting to say was that I want to see less technology that is anachronistic for the socio-economic group being portrayed. If you’re writing about the middle ages, things like glass and paper should be luxury items. Lower class people from that time shouldn’t own books, or if they own any, it would be the Bible and maybe a book of psalms.

    I did not meant to say that people of lower socio-economic classes should never have access to anything. It’s more that you should do your research and know what did or didn’t make sense for people of different socio-economic classes to have at various times.

    Thanks fierceawakening for pointing that out.

  4. I promise I will get around to answering all of the questions that people have asked me. I have a ridiculous amount of work right now, because I have two papers due by Wednesday, so it likely won’t happen before Wednesday (unless I finish everything really early), but it will happen. You can keep asking questions, it will just take me a few days to answer them.

  5. Looking for Us →

    My script is up on Amazon (which is less impressive than it sounds) so you can (theoretically) all check it out. 

  6. Anonymous said: got any ideas for what you'd like to see more or less of in post-apocalypse fiction? much appreciated

    I’ll post one in the next few days.

  7. softdomme said: Hi! I saw your Part Two list of things you'd like to see more of in stories and just wanted to let you know that I'll be writing a guest post at writersyoga here on tumblr soon that should encourage people writing about healthy and non sexual BDSM. Just thought you'd like to know! ~Miss Jessica

    Sounds great. Anyone interested in writing anything like this should check it out (once it’s up).

  8. characterandwritinghelp:

    fixyourwritinghabits:

    fictionwritingtips:

    maxkirin:

    Hello there, writerly friends~ ♥︎

    I have been running this advice blog for a long while now, and although I’ve answered tons of questions and made tons of resources for writers, I think that there is something very important that I have not really touched on… and that is that every writer, regardless of experience or age, has the ability to inspire others.

    I mean it.

    Writing is such a fluid medium— every writer can find their own way to tell stories. This is the freedom of writing. That is why I want to give my fellow writerly friends (that’s you!) a chance to voice their thoughts and advice, so that countless others can be inspired :D

    How can we go about doing this? Take a few minutes, and consider the following question:

    What is the one piece of advice you wish you would’ve known when you first got started writing?

    And then write down your answer! You can reply to this post, reblog it with your thoughts, or you can drop it on my askbox!

    Over the next couple of days I will gather the advice and I will make an awesome post (sourcing each of you correctly and linking back to your blogs, of course) and I will post it here for everyone to see! Imagine this as a nexus— a fountain of inspiration, if you may, and a clear reminder that each and every one of you can inspire others to write!

    Let’s make something awesome, together~ ♥︎

    I think this a great idea, so I’m going to add to it!

    Honestly, I wish I had worried less about my first draft. I spent so much time trying to get each chapter perfect before moving on. I lost motivation because I was trying to edit as I go. I also wish I had surrounded myself with other creative people because I ended up being close friends with people who didn’t really support my writing. I wish I had attended writing and reading groups and sought out other creative people in high school. I spent too much time thinking that what I liked was weird, so I didn’t give myself a chance to explore it. I wish I had been myself more often!!

    For me, it was becoming obsessed with rewriting the beginning of the story over and over again because I was afraid of the middle. It was much too long when I realized you have to push beyond the beginning and dive deep into the middle if you want to get anywhere.

    Always, always remember: you can fix it later, but if you writing nothing now, you have nothing to fix.

    It is ok to suck. You will mess up and make mistakes, and that is fine.

    When I was young, in the days before readily-accesible word processors and color printers (eek!), I was afraid to start because I was afraid of “doing it wrong,” as if writing was some illustrious craft that was far out of my childish reach. I had this idea that all writers were very serious people who did very serious things, and every word that came out of their fountain pens or typewriters or whatever it was writers used was automatically perfect.

    That is so incredibly incorrect, and I wish someone had helped me realize sooner how fun writing could be to do poorly, in the journey to making it good.

    -Headless

    Honestly, the biggest piece of advice I wish I’d known/taken to heart when I began writing in earnest is this: fuck inspiration. Screw the idea that you need to be inspired to write—that waiting for the ‘muse’ to strike will do anything except leave you with forty-eight first chapters of different stories and nothing of substance to show for it. Because that’s what you’ll get when you wait for ‘inspiration’—you’ll come up with a hundred different story ideas, and maybe even feel ‘inspired’ to get a few chapters in… but then the idea for the next story will come along, and that cycle will repeat forever if you let it.

    Here’s the thing, and it’s something that’s been drummed into my head over and over by NaNo—write something every single day. Don’t bother worrying about continuity or consistency—that can wait for the rewrite/editing process. Don’t wait for the inspiration to strike, because it’s probably not going to, and eventually your ‘muse’ will be a convenient but tragic excuse for you not to be writing at all.

    If you feel like anything you write is gonna be shit cause you’re not feeling it? Listen to Headless’ advice above. Let it be shit. You can worry about quality once you’ve got the finished project in front of you and a few long-suffering but ultimately loving friends willing to read it and give you feedback. It doesn’t matter how quality that first chapter you write is if you never make it to the second, let alone the last, you know? So what if you accidentally changed a secondary character’s name halfway through the first draft—someone else will catch it. You will probably catch it yourself after you’ve finished the thing and set it aside for a few weeks, then attacked it with fresh eyes. But, first, you have got to get something written.

    So fuck inspiration. Screw the ‘muses’. (No offense, guys, you’re still awesome in the Greek myths sense.) Write every single day. That is the only way you’ll ever actually get a finished product. You can always edit when it’s finished and any editing will actually matter.

    - Hunter

    Write down literally everything. Have an idea about a scene thee books later in the series you’re writing? Write it down. Think of something at three in the morning? Scrawl it on a tissue and copy it down onto real paper later. Keep everything (yes, I am one of those papers who hoards papers from like 10 years ago).

    I spent a while having all of these ideas and then just losing them to the aether because I didn’t keep them anywhere other than in my head. So write down everything, or record yourself saying it, or draw it, or keep it somewhere on something tangible so you can go back to it later. And chances are, you won’t use all of it. But that is totally fine, as long as you have it.

    Also, digitizing everything (and then BACKING IT UP) is your friend. Keep it on the cloud. Keep it somewhere that it can’t be corrupted or deleted or set on fire or shredded or misplaced.

  9. elumish’s 1000 follower giveaway →

    elumish:

    As I have now reached (and passed) 1000 followers, I thought I would run giveaway for you guys. That being said, I am a college student, so I am not going to give away stuff, but instead my time and expertise.

    Rules for entry:

    • You don’t need to be following me. That being said, of the two…

    Just a reminder

  10. Any films/books/TV shows you want me to do Questions of the World for?